to come to terms with

Idiom Definition

Idiom Definition - come to terms with

"to come to terms with"

to come to accept;

to become reconciled to


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Idiom Scenario 1

Idiom Definition - come to terms with

Two colleagues are talking ...

Colleague 1:  Are you really still upset. You just have to reconcile to the fact that someone else got the promotion.

Colleague 2:  But I worked so hard for it. I was the best candidate. I can't believe that I didn't get it.

Colleague 1:  The sooner you come to terms with not getting the promotion, the sooner you can get back to working towards the next opportunity.

Idiom Scenario 2

Idiom Definition - come to terms with

Two cousins are talking ...

Cousin 1:  I found Grandma wandering around the park again this morning. She was confused and disoriented.

Cousin 2:  What was she doing?

Cousin 1:  She said that she was supposed to meet Grandpa there.

Cousin 2:  Poor Grandma. She has never really come to terms with Grandpa's death.

Cousin 1:  I guess that after fifty-two years of marriage it's extremely difficult to accept that your spouse has passed.

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to come to terms with - Gerund Form:

Coming to terms with the loss of a loved one can be a long and difficult process.

to come to terms with - Examples:

1)  ... not responsible for the deaths of his soldiers. He was able to come to terms with the prolonged survival guilt. Psychosocial rehabilitation helped him to rebuild his social and ...

2)  We still haven't come to terms with what happened. It's been traumatic. 

3)  ... holds a mirror up to the reader, forcing us to come to terms with our attitudes about poor people and foreigners.

4)  ... sense of normality back to their lives, with sessions to help them come to terms with their experiences through talking, playing and making art.

5)  ... for thinning hair only delay the process, so it's important to come to terms with your baldness at some point.

6)  They dominated that period. We struggled to come to terms with their work-rate and intensity. We struggled after that.

7)  Unionists were last night still trying to come to terms with the fact that they no longer have an overall majority of seats in the ...

8)  ... months and back when I was doing that course, I had to come to terms with the fact that -- at my age -- I was unemployable.

9)  Josie hopes her words will help other children come to terms with their illness.

10)  Across the city, the poorest parishes are struggling to help people come to terms with the trauma of state-backed killings.

11)  ... two creative souls exploring, seeking, sometimes even battling, to come to terms with cultural anomalies and political incongruity.

12)  Kershaw says part of the solution is to come to terms with the fact that long-term renting is the only housing option for many millennials and ...

13)  His grieving family are still struggling to come to terms with their devastating loss.

14)  She has really struggled to come to terms with her behaviour. She has been ostracised by her friends and members.

15)  Her family are absolutely devastated and trying to come to terms with the awful news.

16)  ... had limited contact with her children and it was difficult for her to come to terms with the fact they wouldn't be placed back in her care.

17)  Lea is an actress who can come to terms with her age (45) and is enjoying every minute of it.

18)  ... much as you want, the property is gone, you have to come to terms with that.

19)  ... it took a lot of years for me to come to terms with it and a lot of counselling.

20)  This does not make sense to me and we can not come to terms with it.