"water over the dam"
a past event or occurrence, often unfortunate, which cannot now be changed or undone and should therefore no longer a source of concern
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Two colleagues are talking ...
Colleague 1: Do you think my lack of advancement in the company is due to that huge error I made two years ago?
Colleague 2: Not at all. In fact, that error that you made allowed us to actually discover some of the vulnerabilities in the system. The whole process allowed us to improve the system which made it much stronger. I really believe that any error you may have made is water over the dam; gone and forgotten. The lack of advancement is simply a matter of the company not growing very fast. There have simply not been that many opportunities for anyone to advance.
Two friends are talking ...
Friend 1: Do you ever wonder if you could have done things differently in your marriage so that divorce would not have been the outcome?
Friend 2: I used to think that way. I had some serious doubts and regrets for a couple of years after my divorce but I have long since reconciled my feelings about it all. Besides, there is absolutely nothing I can do about it now. It is all water over the dam.
There is no gerund form for water over the dam.
1) ... in that day, but of those who think it is all water over the dam and lets put it away and get on with it.
2) That was four years ago and hopefully it's all water over the dam.
3) Whatever happened then is now in the past. Water over the dam as the saying goes. There is a reason for everything that happens to us ...
4) By then, the Hayden thing was already water over the dam so it was easy to like him more.
5) ... to go the other way, and then say it is all water over the dam, earn back the respect and move on.
6) ... without trying to solve things, or by pretending it's water over the dam while holding a grudge -- both great ways to keep from moving past issues or ...
7) ... and for that I apologise. So let's consider it water over the dam.
8) Let bygones be bygones. It's water over the dam. Dust in the wind.
9) When this is all water over the dam and we sit back to laugh about it twenty years or so hence somebody will ...
10) ... couple hundred dollars more but what's done was done, so water over the dam, I say. She was supportive enough once her temper subsided.
11) It may be water over the dam now to some extent but I didn't hear much protest back then either.
12) But it looked like that was all water over the dam as they indulged in some good old-fashioned fun.
13) This isn't great, but you should treat it as water over the dam. The question is what to do now.
14) Its all water over the dam now so why its being dredged up I don't know.
15) This fact is, however, now water over the dam and life must go on.
16) And with so much water over the dam she found the process therapeutic, especially when it came to dealing with the pain ...
17) ... but this is all water over the dam now. It's time to stop discussing what has happened and ...
18) Water over the dam now, though, and can't see it playing any significant role again for ...
19) It will soon be water over the dam, as the saying goes, and they will be back stronger than ever, ...
20) Learn to live in the present. The past is water over the dam of life.